E: Long-distance relationship analogy
Imagine having access to a high class vault. Imagine picking up a really shining and promising bar of gold. You get fascinated, trapped in it. You let yourself be taken away before knowing its everything, but struggle to find any flaws. Then it is suddenly locked away in a safe. You don’t know the code to open it. You don’t know if you’ll get it or when. You have this fork you start scraping the paint on one side of the safe. You want to get in. Get your bar of gold back. Determined to reach the goldbar, you keep scraping the safe, day and night, seeing that you make some kind of progress. The paint is gone in the area you’ve been applying your energy to. But you have no idea about how thick the wall is, if there are layers with different thickness or if you are ever going to get through. Your wrist, arm and back are getting sore from all the scarping. You are tired, exhausted and sweaty.After a while you start forgetting how the gold bar really appears. You base your knowledge on your glorified memory, which is not making it look worse – rather better. You might get short peeks of the bar, if the safe is opened for brief moments with irregular intervals. But even so, you can only see what you like with it and remembered it for. You don’t really get to progress into the substance.
Your constant digging at that safe make you forget all the other easily-accessible treasures you are surrounded by. Some may not be polished in their entirety; others may be drawing dust or still lying in the box. None of them will contain the same serial number as the others, but might be just as valuable.
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This analogy is portraying the negative side of a long-distance relationship. I have to stress that they are absolutely doable, but extremely hard to follow-through. It's a test on the love between the couple, and more of a maintenance than progress. Altogether it can easily be worth it, though. If you really found the "gold bar" of your dreams, then there might be a period of time you have to be away from one another and if you want to be with that someone - that's the way it has got to be. In conclusion: Possible if it is the only way to be with the ONE, but not recommended if you can avoid it.
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